8 Tantric Lessons, der vil gøre dit sex liv varmere

Kære DR. JENN,

I have heard about tantric sex, but I’m not ashramen, incense, spiritual kind when it comes to love. Må jeg være? Ikke en yogi

Kære ikke en yogi,

There is a reason why tantric sex has existed in an estimated 3000-5000 years. The promise of longer, stronger and more intense orgasms is exciting (not to mention alleged multiples for all sex!). Men de, der praktiserer tantra-en spiritual philosophy about how all energy in the universe is connected – know that it is not only about ultra-twisty sex positions. Udøvere uses its principles of mindfulness, breathing work and focused awareness to deepen all the venues of life. And yes, one of these arenas is really really good sex.

I oppose the sexual experiences with bone and fine, you may be connected with a Tinder-hookup, and tantric sex deals with a deeper and more connected experience. Husk de rapporter, at Sting og hans kone Trudie regelmæssigt beskæftiger sig med timers lange, tantriske kærlighedssessioner? Godt for parret, men du behøver ikke blokere din dag for at nyde godt af tantrisk sexers værktøjer og filosofier. Du behøver heller ikke at deltage i en ashram eller have mega-fleksibel lemmer. Mænd grave can Forbedre sexlivet med vanilje ved at låne fra den tantriske playbook. Below you can choose between a buffet of nine tantric principles that will make your regular sex så meget sexier.

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1. Prep

I den vestlige kultur we tend to romanticize the idea of ​​being spontaneous and swept up at the moment but in tantra’s preparation and planning is part of the foreplay that intensifies passion. At create a sacred space, whether you need to connect with a higher power or with your partner, is the key. Setting the ambience of lighting, temperature and scent and choice of what to wear and the props you need are all part of the rituals of tantric sex. It also means cutting out a particular time for sex – and possibly even talking about it in management. These rituals show clear intention and conscious preparation. Your mind and body must also be prepared for a sensible meeting. Tag et bad eller en brusebad. Ryd din tankegang og din stress. Meditere, journal, dans, skrig i en pude – eller hvad du skal gøre for at give slip. Afgræk slutningen av arbetsdagen by taking off your clothes and putting on something sensual. Sex i tantra er en gennemtænkt oplevelse; dit sind skal være i den rigtige tilstand til at give og modtage fornøjelse.

2. Indånder synkronisering

Have you ever noticed how your breathing changes when you are stressed? It tends to get faster and more superficial. We regulate ourselves with our breathing, and the tantric society believes that breathing is the key to ecstasy. Når man engagerer sig i sex, betyder det at trække vejret together. Prøv at have en partner (ofte mænden, hvis parret er heteroseksuel) sidder i Yab-Yum-stilling aka cross legged, mens den anden partner (ofte kvinden, hvis parret er heteroseksuel) sidder i sit skød, vender sig mod ham og indpakker hende benene omkring hans side. Kig ind i hinandens øjne og synkroniser din vejrtrækning. If you are not used to this kind of emotional intimacy, you may first feel uncomfortable. Once you have both used to the experience, try to maintain this eye contact throughout your love experience..

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3. Langsom vej Ned

Der er ikke travlt i tantrisk sex. Det handler om en udvidet erotisk oplevelse. Prøv at flytte dine hænder med en tiendedel af den hastighed, du normalt gør. Tillad dig selv at sulte, så du og din partner kan nyde hver lækre øjeblik.

4. øve mindfulness

At be present and be aware of what is happening at the moment is a large part of tantra, both in and out of the bedroom. Det betyder at shooing væk noget tanker, der kryber ind i dit sind under sex. For at gøre dette skal du slippe domme, sammenligninger, kritik og selvbevidsthed. Stykke kage, ikke? Gør dit bedste for at afholde krævende tanker og minimere distraktioner.

5. Giv eller modtag, ikke begge

It is challenging to give you full attention to two things at once. Prøv at dreje om at være giver og modtager. Tillad dig selv at overgive sig til de følelser og erotiske oplevelser på modtage-helt skyld fri. When you give, set your love’s body and reactions to give him or her the most enjoyable experience that is possible.

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6. Forsinkelse

Tantrisk sex handler ikke om orgasme. Det handler om at udvide den sensuelle oplevelse for begge parter. This maximizes the love experience, so energy is exchanged between partners for a mutually satisfactory experience. When you think you’re almost there, take a breath and delay. This may mean the construction of a thinking orgasm – but it does not necessarily have to. Tantrisk sex det handler om rejsen, ikke destinationen.

7. Flyt ikke linearært

Ofte har typisk heteroseksuel sex en begyndelse (forspil), mellem (samleje) og ende (orgasme). Tantrisk sex handler om kreativt, sensuelt spil og forbindelse med din partner. Skift ordren på dine sædvanlige bevægelser og ikke i stedet for at opbygge orgasm, cirkulere tilbage til det, du overvejer forspil.

8. Fokus på proces over resultatet

Forlad dine forventninger ved døren. We have all been in the situation where we get so focused on getting to orgasm that prevents us from getting there. Try to focus on the feelings without any expectation or prediction of what will happen next time.

You can practice all of these approaches without leaving the vanilla zone. Overvej dem spise tørre.

Jeg Hump Day, hvor prisbelønnede psykoterapeut og tv-vært svarer Dr. Jenn Mann til dine sexiest spørgsmål – uberettiget og ufiltreret. Email os anonymt på [email protected].

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