Hvorfor sender vi nøgne

Nudes er ikke en opfindelse af den digitale æra – ethvert kunstmuseum er et bevis på det. It’s also not dirty talked-just read James Joyce’s wild, imaginative letters to his hug. Men the internet has probably encouraged us to take the art of sexting to places our parents never imagined. AIM introducerede begrebet cyberflirting. Chatroulette gamified det. Snapchat trak en forsvindende handling ud. Lækager som Emily Ratajkowski og Kim Kardashian bekræftede realiteterne af slut-shaming. Aubergine emojis gave a short hand to requests. Den AirDropped dick pic epidemi overfaldede vores indbakke. Og den vittige Urban Decay-palette tilbyder en fræk modtagelse.

På sende nøgne billeder er risikabelt business-spørg nogen, der nogensinde har været tilbud om hævn porno eller havde en kollega på deres telefon på et forkert tidspunkt. Mænd forskningen siger, at ud af fem voksne er villige til at tilfældige det. Alene i deres værelser – følelse kåt, modig eller behov for validering – de nyder at håndtere med billeder af deres mest sårbare selv.

We asked women what they feel about naked and the answer? En masse. Hendes fortæller 50 kvinder i alle aldre fra hele landet om deres oplevelser at sende og modtage nøgne billeder – det ubehagelige, de bemyndigende og de forsigtige.

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Den første gang

“Min tidligste hukommelse om at blive bedt om et nøgenbillede er i 4th eller 5th klasse, da jeg ville gå i åbne AIM chatrum, og fremmede ville sige, ‘ASL?’ [alder / køn / sted] Så ville de bede om nøgne. I send only naked partners or people I see if they are completely unidentifiable (no face, tattoos or marks that show me that it is me). ” -Gabrielle, 26, New York, salg

“I’m sure every straight guy would love to get AirDropped a picture of a girl’s breasts, but unexpectedly to get my first dick on the metro during rush hour was one of the most invasive experiences I’ve had in NYC. it says something because NYC is basically a big invasive experience. It was disgusting and threatening. ” -Riley, 26, New York, media

“I was 19, and I left my college photography professor, as I had an affair at that time taking pictures of me. I felt very vulnerable, and when he later asked if he could send them to a photographic exhibition / competition, sagde jeg absolut not.” -Debra, 62, Californien, producent

“I was asked for feet pictures when I was 11 or 12, and I did not know what was really happening. When I first found out, I was angry. I was actually not asked for a naked photo before I was 15. My girlfriend wanted at that time to sext but I would not send him pictures. I was very protected. I did not send anyone until I was probably 18. ” -Lexie, 21, Florida, administrativ assistent

“When I first started dancing after my divorce at 41. I did not get used to dating sites or texting men (since I was married for 12 years and when I date in my 20s we did not text), I thought to send pictures var meget vovet. ” -Alisha, 45, Florida, salg

“I was 11 when I first sent one to one guy from an AIM chat room, and I continued talking to him and sending pictures this year after that. The craziest part is that we never met Skyped or spoke on the phone. had no way to know who he actually was but thought we were in a kind of relationship. I think back on it and feel very dirty because I’m sure he was a creepy old pedophile. ” -Alexandra, 28, New York, finans

“Da jeg var 13, bad min fætterens mig om at sende et boobbillede over AIM. I had no breasts, so I did not want to send a picture. I had all my friends over and we were huddled around AIM when he sent a pik picture. It really scared us and probably led us to do nothing with boys for a while. ” -Morgan, 28, Michigan, sygeplejerske

Alle gør deres egne regler

“When I was single, I always had a rule not to send naked until they saw me naked IRL. You will not miss that moment with excitement when they look naked for the first time. Now I’m just sending to the chat group chat Når vores bryster ser godt ud, vi sender. ” -Lyz, 32, New York, kopirektør

“I refused to send them until I was married and I never got my face on a picture. I have all the rules. I do not send anything if they were seen by my family, they could be sure it was me . ” -Tara, 35, Texas, sanger

“Pussy pictures are only for lovers and hubbys. But I do not care that my face is in photos or people take screenshots – I’m beautifully bodily proud (most of the time) when I work hard at angles and sex appeal.” -Regina, 28, Ohio, sundhedspleje IT

“Jeg sender kun via Snapchat, fordi du kan se, om noget er blevet screenshotted.” -Lauren, 26, New York, redaktør

“I had never taken a picture like this before and was convinced that I would get a horrible angle so I asked my sister to take it. We are so close that it did not even fascinate her. My boyfriend was excited, mænd svarede, “Hvem tog det billede ???!” Kun selvhjælpere fra nu af. ” -Jephannes, 24, New York, lærer

“Udadtil, jeg fortaler for at slette nøgne billeder af dine ekser, men jeg håber hemmeligt at mine holder fast på dem, jeg har sendt dem. There is something that awakens the thought that they still eat over my naked naked body .” -Ariella, 29, Massachusetts, forfatter

“Jeg vil vise forskellige dele af min krop. En gang imellem sender jeg et billede med mit ansigt også.” I trust my girlfriend would never show anyone. “ -Brooke, 34, Californien, terapeut

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Hvorfor sender vi

“I have sent them to my committed partners as well as people I have randomly dated if I want to spice up the conversation or the mood framework. The older I have got, the less I need or care for the self-esteem. There’s more to do modtageren glad. ” -Lauren, 29, Californien, publicist

“I got so many unsolicited dick pics on dating apps and I switched between being scared and angry, but then I just started thinking it was fun and decided to turn the tables and send a picture of my breasts as my first message. Honestly, only one guy did not act like … 25. I even went on dates with some of the boys, and they were not pervative or inappropriate. Of course there were also a lot of dirty answers, and I did not respond to them, but I like to throw them and feel responsible. ” -Kelly, 29, Arizona, webdesigner

“I sent them unexpectedly to my ex-girlfriend and knew that it was a sexy surprise for him wherever he was. It made me feel powerful and gave me an ego boost because I knew I could expect one gud reaktion. ” -Fiona, 27, Washington, redaktør

“Jeg plejede at hjælpe mine venner med at få boob job gennem myfreeimplants.com. Piger, der ønskede implantater, ville oprette en gratis konto, og drenge ville have betalt konti. They would give money in exchange for pictures, so we used to hang every time they sent a message, my friend got $ 1 and sometimes they would say something like ‘picture in a red bra for $ 20.’ Jeg kender til piger, der fik brusere i den måde. ‘ -Kate, 39, Ohio, stylist

“Kjedsomhed, ensomhed. Har været singel for lang og vil bekræfte, at jeg stadig har det.” -Natalie, 29, New Jersey, kunstner

Det bedste svar

“En dreng fortalte mig, at jeg så ud som en” smuk renæssance maleri “og mine roommates og jeg skrev det på en post-it på vores køleskab.” -Efterår, 21, Massachusetts, studerende

“Et billede af hans hårde pik siger:” Du gjorde det for mig. “” -Candice

“I’m a Trans Woman, and I did only the bottom operation one and a half years ago so I’m still exploring and getting used to my new body. I love it and it feels right, but the thought of Being naked about humans still gives me a lot of fear. After I had restored, I sent a picture of my new vagina to a female friend and a long-lasting male friend I have gotten. Both made me feel so good og sagde, at de aldrig har set et bedre udseende pige i alle deres år med at se porno. ” -Jess, 31, Oregon, frisør

”Fuck. Mig. Nu.” -Alison, 26, Californien, detailhandel

“He can send a picture back, but I do not care about it or anything. I just want to show my friends.” -regina

“JEG never håber på et svar. I think I like to excite my partner / make them awake but not profound phone calls. ” -Maria, 23, New York, kontoadministrator

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Det værste svar

“Sprængende emoji. Intet andet. Dreng, farvel.” -Kendall, 24, Atlanta, grad studerende

“When I first started dancing at women, I assumed that everything would be easier – from making plans for first date conversation to sex. Sometimes it is, but women can also be really dumb. I sent a picture of my breasts to en chick, før vi havde mødt, og hun sagde: “Er det dig?” When I said yes, she replied that she was not sure as they looked much bigger in my profile picture. ” -Camille, 30, Texas, gæstfrihed

“Hvorfor sendte du det haha” -Sophia, 24, New York City, salg

“One time I sent one to a guy and he whispered me so I showed my friend the picture and she said it was not flattering. Now I always check with friends before I send.” -Katarien, 42, Virginia, publicist

“I do not want pics. I had a guy send me a picture of a cum-colored paper towel and the lower part of his genitals after I sent him naked – and I was not happy or asked for it.” -Lexie

“I do not want to have one in return, as ever. Maybe when I get a cougar and dating young guys just for their appearance, I’d like it.” -Katie

“I have just sent my husband an unexpected picture of my breasts. He sees them all the time. He slipped me back,” I’m coming. Nowwww. “Mænd 10 minutter senere er han stadig i sit værelse og spiller Fortnite …” -Alle, 28, Ohio, sygeplejerske

The best time to send

“I usually like to get started, after dated for a while and then sleep together. I send a picture pretty soon after we become a monogame. It’s just fun. And they’re probably surprised to get it because I’m ret optimeret ellers. “ -Katie, 33, New York, forfatter

“Mostly after the first or second date, depending on how far we went on each.” -Candice, 27, New York, PR

“Nogle spørger straks, og jeg er ikke okay med det og vil ikke sende. I’ve only sent to serious lovers.” -Ashley, 28, Californien, ejendomsmægler

“Efter du har haft sex.” -Leah, 24, New York, student

“Jeg ville [kun] med en kæreste.” -Madeline, 23, Californien, produktleder

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At edit or not edit

“I edit my nøgne bilder before I send them 99 percent on time. I make my call less, my breasts bigger and perkier, and other small tweaks I can make. Even though I edit my pictures, I love my body and I think , it’s something to be proud of, so it makes me feel empowered and sexy. ” -Mollie, 24, Ohio, marketing koordinator

“I always take new pictures, so it’s currently and I want to show which part of my body somebody asks if I feel it. I edit them using the smoothing tool – it helps!” -Hilliary, 28, Kansas, detailhandler

“I’ve wanted to, at the whole point of sending naked, to show that you are comfortable enough to be with your most vulnerable. Save Facetune for your fake Instagram-life.” -Megan, 32, Illinois, arrangement planlægning

På Usikkerhed

“When I look back at the pictures or videos, I’m so embarrassed and ashamed. I think it’s because I’m looking at myself in such a vulnerable position, and then I start thinking about every way the recipient could potentially judge mig. ” -Casey, 23, Michigan, fashion stylist

“I feel self-conscious, just because of my streak marks.” -Elizabeth, 31, Pennsylvania, sonographer

“I’m taking pictures from the strange sides or making angles to try to hide the stretch marks on my breasts. Or I do it in very low light and pretend that I will purge them with a dark blurred image.” -Bretagne, 34, New York, medicinsk salg

“I used to send my husband pics, every time he went away for work, but I have not had my baby earlier this year. The motherhood hurts sexually for a while.” -Kristen, 35, Californien, konsulent

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Den mørke side

“When I was very young, early gymnasium, I fluttered a guy with demanded naked. I really felt the pressure so I took one and sent it – my face was not in it, thank God – and he sent it to everyone in my home town. It was really terrible and embarrassing and eventually my parents found out. I do not send them very often – only if I’m in an engaged relationship. ” -Caroline, 23, New York, PR

“It could be disrespectful as it is your thing.” He did not, but we broke up. Then I blocked him in every possible way. måde. ” -Laura, 29, Californien, talent manager

“Min freshman år på college, jeg var hele JuicyCampus med kaldenavnet ‘Biggest Slut i Kappa’ fordi jeg havde drukket sendt en fyr i min kollegium nogle Meget afslørende billeder en nat. I do not even remember doing that. He showed all his love and I avoided partying there for two years. Fucking mareridt. ” -L., 27, Ohio, uddannelse

“Hvem bekymrer sig om mine billeder nogensinde blev lækket? Jeg er ikke Beyoncé.” -Kaydee, 25, Ohio, merchandiser

Opting Out

“I have never sent a naked photo, and all my friends think it’s strange that I do not have it. There was a girl in my gymnasium who sent one million to her boyfriend with her leg literally over her head, vag ud, and each guy had them on their computers. I’m so scared from it, I do not think I’ll ever send one! ” -Alison, 26, Tennessee, musikforlag

“Aldrig blevet spurgt.” -Lois, 64, Californien, film / tv-produktion

“If a guy sends me naked or asks me immediately, I’m blocking ASAP. It’s awful.” -Anna, 28, Washington, admin

“Jeg er alt for ubehageligt med min krop for altid at sende en. Jeg kan ikke lide lide at se på mig selv nøgne, så jeg absolut ikke vil have nogen til. I’m still virgin because of my insecurities, but I’m working on det. ” -Meg, 19, Indiana, studerende

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På Empowerment

“Jeg har haft masser af kropsproblemer omkring vægt og stregmærker og har haft problemer med spiseforstyrrelser i min fortid. I’m not the perfect place, but I have slowly learned to claim my sexuality after being jomfru till 26 and love my body for what it is. As a woman, I know that we are always being investigated to be either for sexual or not sexual enough, so I’d rather do what makes me happy. ” -Anna

“When I send a naked, it’s because I’m proud of my body and feeling sexy. I’ve never felt ashamed or self-conscious.” -Michelle, 31, Californien, manager

“Every decision I take with regard to my sex life is a choice I have made for myself – not anyone else. I would never send a naked if it was in a situation where I felt unsure or insecure or uncomfortable. Send nøgne is an expression of my sexuality, and I feel that it is incredible power to express your sexuality in a way that is comfortable for you. ” -Maria, 28, New York, forfatter